The evolution of contrast
Contrast may be evolved in different ways using creative proportionality. Following the conditions of cooperation, you may end up developing amazing solutions able to coordinate the diversities of the individuals in a group. Equivalence, Trust, Care, Transparency, Freedom, Understanding and Diversity are your keys to foster cooperative solutions.
Allow experimentation and use turns so that different proposed solutions have the same importance.
Give time its pace, allow experience to fix the situation and evaluate the results after a given amount of time (eventually establishing objective criteria for evaluation=common codes).
Check everything about the context, the environment and the services. Are you in a beautiful place? Are there plants or animals in good shape around you? Are there colors? Is there good food and water? Did you drink too much alcohol or smoke too much? Are you feeling good? Are you tired and need a pause? Are you afraid of something? Is there anything to talk about that can make you feel happy? If you are feeling bad, where in your body is that mood? Can you describe it and what could make you feel better? Can you talk for a while about a dream situation and how you would like the present situation to be?
These questions seem to be a lot but they are very important. They can create a funny and bright mood and give you time to relax a bit and be more comprehensive with each other.
Find the missing secret, exposing everyone’s point of view in complete freedom. Be careful with this methodology and be ready to accept apparent unpleasant truths. In search for a proportional creative resolution, tell frankly what is the minimum you need to be comfortable in the current situation (this is quite similar to the "indaba" south african methodology).
Giving the right space to people without separating is a very effective solution, as there’s nothing worse than forcing to be together people who do not want to. Try an Open Space Technology if the people are many, try a pause or simply some space or distance for a while if you are a few. Sometimes longer separation is needed.
Ask yourself what are the values you believe in when you have a contrast. The values or the motivations could be profoundly similar. Choose together common objective and measurable criterias to evaluate the situation.
Sometimes contrast are based on two complementary visions about the problem which do not exclude that much one another. Combining the two perspective in a creative way may result in a strong, effective and powerful solution.
If the contrast is instead based on individuals with different expertises, every one of them should have a role, based on their personality and knowledge so that everyone has a responsibility in which they believe.
Everyone will feel part of the group without overlapping on other people.
The following pages go deeper in the description of the conditions of cooperation. Once you know their deeper meaning you may bring them in your daily life and have better interactions with others and with contexts in which all the participants could enjoy the common effort.